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Clinically Depressed Pug

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We focus on helping and supporting those who suffers from any mental illness, but mostly depression. We post memes, quotes, answer asks and we just try to do the best we can.
Sep 1 '14
"She took a step and didn’t want to take any more, but she did."
Markus Zusak, The Book Thief (via quotes-shape-us)
Sep 1 '14
Sep 1 '14
Sep 1 '14
"Pain demands to be felt"
Sep 1 '14

mxmseh:

when will people realize that mental illnesses don’t fucking discriminate? 

eating disorders are not feminine

depression is not a “white” disease

ptsd does not limit to soldiers

you don’t have to be straight, white, and feminine to be mentally ill. your sexuality, gender, race, and history should not be liable to define your mental state. if you’re sick, you’re fucking sick and you shouldn’t base your susceptibility on who you are.

Aug 31 '14
"There are things you have to do to keep yourself sane that other people will not like or understand, and sometimes those people end up being collateral damage. On those days when your own brain is your mortal enemy, other people are going to suffer too. You can only apologize so many times, and it’s easy to understand that there comes a point where the apologies seem meaningless, where people assume you are just willfully fucking up again and again, too lazy or unconcerned to act differently. I’m not excusing the genuinely shitty things I have done. But there are things that were not my idea, and although it may sound ludicrous for me to say there are times when I cannot control myself, it’s true."
Aug 31 '14

Tired of seeing “Everyone is beautiful”

plushieprincess:

It is being used the wrong way. When people say this they really mean that everyone is valuable, everyone has worth, everyone has good qualities that make them someone to be loved.

We think that beauty means all of these things because society makes us feel as though if we aren’t beautiful then we are worthless. Beauty has become something that we can’t live without because who cares if we are smart or funny or caring, if we aren’t beautiful it doesn’t matter. 

It’s a messed up way to think and it can lead to eating disorders and low self esteem because we think that being beautiful means being successful, being important and that without it we can’t find love or happiness.

Well I want to tell you something, whoever you are. I don’t know if you’re beautiful, funny, smart, friendly, musical, caring, diligent, athletic, or anything else about you. All I know is this:

You are valuable.

You are important.

You are interesting.

You are worth loving.

So forget about “beautiful”. It’s become an ugly word anyway.

Inspiration and some parts came from a writing I read earlier this week. I still feel very strongly about this!
http://nathanbiberdorf.wordpress.com/2014/06/09/not-everyone-is-beautiful/

Aug 31 '14
Aug 31 '14

victoriouspages:

"Your arms around my waist was a better antidepressant than any doctor could prescribe."

—post on tumblr

No. No. Nononononononono. No. This is the view of medical treatments for mental illness that we’ve created and it needs to die. 

Antidepressants treat a chemical problem inside your brain that causes insurmountable sad moods. They treat a physiological illness that cannot be managed by any other means. 

They are not “happy pills.” They can’t make your heartbreak, your great grandma in the hospital, or your stress levels cease to matter. They do not manage your life for you. They are not Mary Poppins, snapping their fingers to organize your life in a matter of moments. 

All of this is from experience. I have a chemical imbalance that causes my depression and anxiety.

A big part of what made me decide that I needed to seek treatment was the opposite of what the above quote suggests. Over the last year, I have built an amazing relationship with an awesome guy, and fantastic friendships with great people on varying levels. And I was still depressed. "His arms around my waist" weren’t fixing it. No matter how happy I was, I still had a cloud tagging along behind me, waiting to rain at the least convenient moments. All this was because I was physically sick. No emotional high could change that. 

So what have these ~*~antidepressants~*~ done for me?
They’ve freed my mind up to deal with life. They’ve straightened out some of the physical kinks in my brain that were holding me back. They’re allowing me to enjoy many things in life more fully, because I’m not living in constant fear of that freefall feeling in my stomach coming and staying for days on end.

tl;dr: if “his arms around your waist” are fixing your depression, then antidepressants are not what you needed.

I’m not trying to be annoying, there is just SUCH a big difference in the causes of depression there, and awareness of them is extremely important. Neither is less real or less legitimate, but the treatments for each are very different.

As someone in school for therapy, knowing when various types of treatments are necessary for mental illness (physiological/medications vs. mental-emotional/therapy, etc) are something I feel very strongly about. I’m passionate on the subject, if you couldn’t tell. :)

Aug 31 '14
"The abiding American myth of the self-made man comes attached to another article of faith - an insistence, even - that every self-made man can sustain whatever self he has managed to make. A man divided - thwarting or interrupting his own mechanisms of survival - fails to sustain this myth, disrupts our belief in the absolute efficacy of willpower, and in these failures also forfeits his right to our sympathy. Or so the logic goes. But I wonder why this fractured self shouldn’t warrant our compassion just as much as the self besieged? Or maybe even more?"
Leslie Jamison, The Empathy Exams (via celloface)
Aug 30 '14
"We tend to expect that when artists go through difficult times, their way of coping is to make art about it. (Neil Gaiman gave a beautiful speech about this.) Making art can indeed help people deal with all sorts of adverse circumstances, including mental illness, but sometimes it’s not enough. Luckily, some artists, musicians included, have spoken out about seeing therapy and medication when they needed it—not an easy thing to do in a society where mental illness is still stigmatized and being a celebrity means having your private life constantly scrutinized and sold as entertainment.

On the other hand, I’m also leery when celebrities are expected to be “role models” and to demonstrate positive, healthy behavior to the children and teens who look up to them. It would certainly be nice if, when interviewed about her moods, Del Rey said something like, “I’ve been going through a hard time and dealing with lots of sadness, but I’m seeing a great therapist and taking good care of myself.”

But holding her responsible for the mental health of hundreds of thousands of young people is unfair and hypocritical. Del Rey’s young fans would benefit a lot more from seeing their own parents model good self-care, but we don’t encourage that in parents any more than we do in glamorous singers. Instead, we shame people who take poor care of themselves, and we shame people who are open about seeking therapy."
Aug 30 '14
Aug 30 '14

(Source: sabrina-volante)

Aug 30 '14
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: is skinny
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: goes to hospital
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: gets diagnosed
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: is anorexic
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: goes to therapy
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: exercises
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: makes themselves sick
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: doesn't eat
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: is female
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: calorie counts
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: only eats healthy foods
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: has fear foods
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: want to lose weight
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: is obsessed with being skinny
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: cries in front of food
  • not everyone with an eating disorder: is a teenager
Aug 30 '14

SUPPORTING SOMEONE WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

spiritual-euphoria:

Accurate information.

Knowledge of the biological basis of BPD can help families reframe the behavior of their loved one in the light of current science and accept that evidence-based treatment works. Accurate information can dispel the stigma that colours attitudes toward people with BPD.

Understanding.

Understand that the person with BPD is doing the best they can and does not intend to harm others or himself (debatable, sometimes a person with BPD can also have other conditions such as depression.) Discourage viewing the person with BPD as “manipulative,” as the enemy, or as hopeless. Understanding can melt anger and cultivate compassion.

Acceptance.

Accept that the person with BPD has a disability and has special needs. Help the family accept their loved one as someone with a chronic illness. They may continue to be financially and emotionally dependent on the family and be vocationally impaired. BPD is a deficit or handicap that can be overcome. Help families to reconcile to the long-term course of BPD and accept that progress will be slow. There are no short-term solutions.

Compassion.

Do not assume that every family is a “dysfunctional family.” Emotions are contagious. Living with someone with BPD can make any family dysfunctional. Family members have been recipients of rages as well as abusive and irrational behaviors. They live in perpetual fear and feel manipulated. They often react by either protecting and rescuing or rejecting and avoiding. Reframe their points of view with compassion. Families are doing the best they can. They need support and acceptance. “Bad parents” are usually uninformed, not malevolent. They did the wrong things for the right reasons (the “allergic to milk syndrome”). Anyone can have a disturbed child. Keep reminding the family of the neurobiological dysregulations of BPD, and of the pain their loved one is coping with each day.

Collaboration for change.

Accept that families can help, can learn effective skills and become therapeutic partners. They can reinforce treatment. The IQ of a family member is not reduced if a loved one has BPD. Do not patronize or fragelize family members. Family members are generally well-educated, intelligent people who are highly motivated to help. Respect their commitment. When you provide them with effective skills to help their loved one, they can become therapeutic parent or partners. You can help them.

Stay in the present.

Do not focus on past painful experiences when the person with BPD cannot cope with aversive feelings and has no distress tolerance skills. Avoid shame-inducing memories. If you induce arousal and the patient cannot cope with the arousal, therapy becomes unacceptable, giving her additional pressure and stress and undermining cognitive control. This is a sure-fire way to get her to drop out of therapy.

Be nonjudgmental.

Respect that families are doing the best they can, in the moment, without any understanding of the underlying disorders or the ability to translate their loved one’s behaviors. Although they may have done the wrong thing in the past, it was probably for the right reasons. Their intention was not to hurt their loved one.

Corroborate allegations.

Try not to assume the worst, and corroborate allegations. Remember that your perception of an event or experience may be different from what actually happened.

Avoid boundaries, limits, contracts, and tough love.

These methods are not effective with people with BPD. Be sure that families understand that boundaries are generally viewed as punishment by the person with BPD. Be sure they understand how to change behavior by explaining reinforcement, punishment, shaping, and extinction so that they do not reinforce maladaptive behaviors.

Discourage “we.”

Encourage family members to nurture individual relationships with the person with BPD, not the united front of “we.” Although both parents can have the same goals for their loved one, they must express these goals in their own style, in one-on-one relationships. Focus on developing individual relationships and trust, not solving individual problems. This will discourage “splitting.”