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We focus on helping and supporting those who suffers from any mental illness, but mostly depression. We post memes, quotes, answer asks and we just try to do the best we can.
Jul 23 '14
shitborderlinesdo:

mentalillnessmedia:
Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them, while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. A single detail may be picked out, and the whole event becomes colored by this detail. When you pull negative things out of context, isolated from all the good experiences around you, you make them larger and more awful than they really are.
Polarized Thinking: The hallmark of this distortion is an insistence on dichotomous choices. Things are black or white, good or bad. You tend to perceive everything at the extremes, with very little room for a middle ground. The greatest danger in polarized thinking is its impact on how you judge yourself. For example-You have to be perfect or you’re a failure.
Overgeneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once, you expect it to happen over and over again. ‘Always’ and ‘never’ are cues that this style of thinking is being utilized. This distortion can lead to a restricted life, as you avoid future failures based on the single incident or event.
Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling toward you. Mind reading depends on a process called projection. You imagine that people feel the same way you do and react to things the same way you do. Therefore, you don’t watch or listen carefully enough to notice that they are actually different. Mind readers jump to conclusions that are true for them, without checking whether they are true for the other person.
Catastrophizing: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start “what if’s.” What if that happens to me? What if tragedy strikes? There are no limits to a really fertile catastrophic imagination. An underlying catalyst for this style of thinking is that you do not trust in yourself and your capacity to adapt to change.
Personalization: This is the tendency to relate everything around you to yourself. For example, thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who’s smarter, better looking, etc. The underlying assumption is that your worth is in question. You are therefore continually forced to test your value as a person by measuring yourself against others. If you come out better, you get a moment’s relief. If you come up short, you feel diminished. The basic thinking error is that you interpret each experience, each conversation, each look as a clue to your worth and value.
Control Fallacies: There are two ways you can distort your sense of power and control. If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you. Feeling externally controlled keeps you stuck. You don’t believe you can really affect the basic shape of your life, let alone make any difference in the world. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. On the other hand, the fallacy of internal control leaves you exhausted as you attempt to fill the needs of everyone around you, and feel responsible in doing so (and guilty when you cannot).
Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what’s fair, but other people won’t agree with you. Fairness is so conveniently defined, so temptingly self-serving, that each person gets locked into his or her own point of view. It is tempting to make assumptions about how things would change if people were only fair or really valued you. But the other person hardly ever sees it that way, and you end up causing yourself a lot of pain and an ever-growing resentment.
Blaming: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem. Blaming often involves making someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are actually our own responsibility. In blame systems, you deny your right (and responsibility) to assert your needs, say no, or go elsewhere for what you want.
Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you, and you feel guilty if you violate the rules. The rules are right and indisputable and, as a result, you are often in the position of judging and finding fault (in yourself and in others). Cue words indicating the presence of this distortion are should, ought, and must.
Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid or boring, then you must be stupid and boring. If you feel guilty, then you must have done something wrong. The problem with emotional reasoning is that our emotions interact and correlate with our thinking process. Therefore, if you have distorted thoughts and beliefs, your emotions will reflect these distortions.
Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them. The truth is the only person you can really control or have much hope of changing is yourself. The underlying assumption of this thinking style is that your happiness depends on the actions of others. Your happiness actually depends on the thousands of large and small choices you make in your life.
Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities (in yourself or others) into a negative global judgment. Global labeling ignores all contrary evidence, creating a view of the world that can be stereotyped and one-dimensional. Labeling yourself can have a negative and insidious impact upon your self-esteem; while labeling others can lead to snap-judgments, relationship problems, and prejudice.
Being Right: You feel continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. Having to be ‘right’ often makes you hard of hearing. You aren’t interested in the possible veracity of a differing opinion, only in defending your own. Being right becomes more important than an honest and caring relationship.
Heaven’s Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You fell bitter when the reward doesn’t come as expected. The problem is that while you are always doing the ‘right thing,’ if your heart really isn’t in it, you are physically and emotionally depleting yourself.
I made up this chart after a CBT session. I thought I’d post it in case anybody found it useful. I really like this exercise because trying to find 8 alternatives keeps my mind busy when I would normally be caught in a negative thought cycle. I printed types of distorted thoughts on the back, as a reference.
*Edit* I cleaned up the image and added my new watermark

I found a lot of these rang true for BPD. Very useful information and very nice chart as well. :)
-Mea

shitborderlinesdo:

mentalillnessmedia:

  1. Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them, while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. A single detail may be picked out, and the whole event becomes colored by this detail. When you pull negative things out of context, isolated from all the good experiences around you, you make them larger and more awful than they really are.
  2. Polarized Thinking: The hallmark of this distortion is an insistence on dichotomous choices. Things are black or white, good or bad. You tend to perceive everything at the extremes, with very little room for a middle ground. The greatest danger in polarized thinking is its impact on how you judge yourself. For example-You have to be perfect or you’re a failure.
  3. Overgeneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once, you expect it to happen over and over again. ‘Always’ and ‘never’ are cues that this style of thinking is being utilized. This distortion can lead to a restricted life, as you avoid future failures based on the single incident or event.
  4. Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling toward you. Mind reading depends on a process called projection. You imagine that people feel the same way you do and react to things the same way you do. Therefore, you don’t watch or listen carefully enough to notice that they are actually different. Mind readers jump to conclusions that are true for them, without checking whether they are true for the other person.
  5. Catastrophizing: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start “what if’s.” What if that happens to me? What if tragedy strikes? There are no limits to a really fertile catastrophic imagination. An underlying catalyst for this style of thinking is that you do not trust in yourself and your capacity to adapt to change.
  6. Personalization: This is the tendency to relate everything around you to yourself. For example, thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who’s smarter, better looking, etc. The underlying assumption is that your worth is in question. You are therefore continually forced to test your value as a person by measuring yourself against others. If you come out better, you get a moment’s relief. If you come up short, you feel diminished. The basic thinking error is that you interpret each experience, each conversation, each look as a clue to your worth and value.
  7. Control Fallacies: There are two ways you can distort your sense of power and control. If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you. Feeling externally controlled keeps you stuck. You don’t believe you can really affect the basic shape of your life, let alone make any difference in the world. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. On the other hand, the fallacy of internal control leaves you exhausted as you attempt to fill the needs of everyone around you, and feel responsible in doing so (and guilty when you cannot).
  8. Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what’s fair, but other people won’t agree with you. Fairness is so conveniently defined, so temptingly self-serving, that each person gets locked into his or her own point of view. It is tempting to make assumptions about how things would change if people were only fair or really valued you. But the other person hardly ever sees it that way, and you end up causing yourself a lot of pain and an ever-growing resentment.
  9. Blaming: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem. Blaming often involves making someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are actually our own responsibility. In blame systems, you deny your right (and responsibility) to assert your needs, say no, or go elsewhere for what you want.
  10. Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you, and you feel guilty if you violate the rules. The rules are right and indisputable and, as a result, you are often in the position of judging and finding fault (in yourself and in others). Cue words indicating the presence of this distortion are should, ought, and must.
  11. Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid or boring, then you must be stupid and boring. If you feel guilty, then you must have done something wrong. The problem with emotional reasoning is that our emotions interact and correlate with our thinking process. Therefore, if you have distorted thoughts and beliefs, your emotions will reflect these distortions.
  12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them. The truth is the only person you can really control or have much hope of changing is yourself. The underlying assumption of this thinking style is that your happiness depends on the actions of others. Your happiness actually depends on the thousands of large and small choices you make in your life.
  13. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities (in yourself or others) into a negative global judgment. Global labeling ignores all contrary evidence, creating a view of the world that can be stereotyped and one-dimensional. Labeling yourself can have a negative and insidious impact upon your self-esteem; while labeling others can lead to snap-judgments, relationship problems, and prejudice.
  14. Being Right: You feel continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. Having to be ‘right’ often makes you hard of hearing. You aren’t interested in the possible veracity of a differing opinion, only in defending your own. Being right becomes more important than an honest and caring relationship.
  15. Heaven’s Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You fell bitter when the reward doesn’t come as expected. The problem is that while you are always doing the ‘right thing,’ if your heart really isn’t in it, you are physically and emotionally depleting yourself.

I made up this chart after a CBT session. I thought I’d post it in case anybody found it useful. I really like this exercise because trying to find 8 alternatives keeps my mind busy when I would normally be caught in a negative thought cycle. I printed types of distorted thoughts on the back, as a reference.

*Edit* I cleaned up the image and added my new watermark

I found a lot of these rang true for BPD. Very useful information and very nice chart as well. :)

-Mea

Jul 23 '14

Depressing thoughts.

thestoryofabipolarbear:

My illness completely ruined my academic career.
It wiped out my dreams, my opportunities, and my admiration.
I blame my illness but mostly I blame myself.
I blame myself for not taking precautions.
For denying I am ill.
I let my illness ruin my dreams.
My admiration.
My opportunities.
And I can’t stop crying about it because I don’t know what I do to fix it.
What I could do to make it right.
What I could do start again.
All I could is cry.
And cry.
Bringing my past into my present.

Jul 23 '14

Mental illness does not make you any less of a human being.

Jul 23 '14
everybodyhasabrain:

I used to be afraid of the uncertainty of my future. I’d be easily overwhelmed about the sheer amount of possibilities, while trying to make my present life work out. I had this talent of turning good thoughts into critical ones. Part of the problem was that these thoughts about the future were always stuck in my head - where those same possibilities could turn into thoughts of failure in a split second.
I think I really started changing my thoughts about my future last year. Things like writing and drawing regularly about my thoughts definitely helped. But I found that when I talked to people about them, I felt much better. It gave me a new perspective on myself, especially when talking to close friends and family. They’re able to give me their own stories of similar thoughts, or even suggestions that could help me take the next step. 
I’ve never made something like a 5-year plan, at least not yet. I’ve found that things change so often, including myself. Instead, I like to plan things about 6-months or a year down the line with some goals. I write some down at the beginning of the year, and check up with myself half way through. The good thing I’ve found about this is that it can be flexible. I’m not chained to those goals - they’re things that I aspire to. And just knowing that I can change them a bit later, especially after talking about them with people, leaves my mind much clearer. Now I can be confident about the possibilities, instead of being afraid of them. 
- Matt

everybodyhasabrain:

I used to be afraid of the uncertainty of my future. I’d be easily overwhelmed about the sheer amount of possibilities, while trying to make my present life work out. I had this talent of turning good thoughts into critical ones. Part of the problem was that these thoughts about the future were always stuck in my head - where those same possibilities could turn into thoughts of failure in a split second.

I think I really started changing my thoughts about my future last year. Things like writing and drawing regularly about my thoughts definitely helped. But I found that when I talked to people about them, I felt much better. It gave me a new perspective on myself, especially when talking to close friends and family. They’re able to give me their own stories of similar thoughts, or even suggestions that could help me take the next step. 

I’ve never made something like a 5-year plan, at least not yet. I’ve found that things change so often, including myself. Instead, I like to plan things about 6-months or a year down the line with some goals. I write some down at the beginning of the year, and check up with myself half way through. The good thing I’ve found about this is that it can be flexible. I’m not chained to those goals - they’re things that I aspire to. And just knowing that I can change them a bit later, especially after talking about them with people, leaves my mind much clearer. Now I can be confident about the possibilities, instead of being afraid of them. 

- Matt

Jul 22 '14

yuukitherapy:

I don’t have the money or the motivation to get the help I need. So instead I just sit here with both physical and psychological problems.

Jul 22 '14

Recovery is like hiccups… (Hear me out, I think I’ll try and make it make sense)

recovering-please-wait:

You don’t ask for the hiccups. It’s not your fault you have them. You didn’t choose to have them, and they’re horrible. They’re constant, they hurt, they make you angry and sad and you can’t function.

If you try really really really hard, you can actually stop the hiccups. But it’s often so hard, it’s easier to live with them, however horrible that may be.

You may fight them for days, weeks, months and then get tired. Because you can still feel them deep down, you just want them to go and you know the only way they will go is if you constantly fight to keep them down… But your tired. You give in just once. Just one hiccup. And there’s a moment of peace, your no longer fighting yourself, after the pain of trying to make them go away for so long, you were so close. But you just couldn’t hold on any longer. One hiccup turns into two, hen three, and before you know it your back in the swing and you realise how horrible it was to have them, and although it was so incredibly tough to fight them, you were fighting them. You were getting better.

You slip up, that’s okay. Because you’ve learnt how to control them, you know you can so it again. And you know to be free you have to fight every second of the day, giving in for just a second could make them so much worse so quickly.

But you know you can fight them. And as long as you keep focusing on keeping those hiccups at bay, they will eventually leave.

YOU CAN FIGHT YOUR ILLNESS. ITS TOUGH, YOU WILL SLIP UP. BUT YOU CAN DO IT. PERSISTENCE IS KEY. KEEP FIGHTING.

Jul 22 '14
Jul 22 '14

It bugs me when people ask me why I have a mental illness.

thenightbeforethelight:

As if I wanted to have a mental illness. You wouldn’t say to a cancer patient ‘Why do you have cancer?’

Jul 21 '14
"Don’t let your struggle become your identity."
Sober Recovery (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Jul 21 '14

thylaed:

shout out to people who are scared to call others out, whose hands shake when they try to explain what’s wrong, whose throats threaten to close up with thoughts of ‘what if i’m just overreacting’, whose hearts are pounding out of their chests because they just stuck their necks out for their beliefs, who have lost friends and respect and safety for aligning themselves with causes

(Source: dontclaimgucci)

Jul 21 '14
Jul 21 '14
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Jul 20 '14
"Every time you show your feelings, you apologize. Have you ever had an emotion in your life that you weren’t ashamed of?"
R.J Anderson, Ultraviolet  (via kiddings)

(Source: baker-94)

Jul 20 '14

humorinrecovery:

When your anxieties follow you into your dreams and you can’t use sleep as an escape anymore

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Jul 20 '14